Thoughts

Never Too Busy

I recently got back into writing. And not the usual plans or proposals for running a business…but lyrics, songs, and other creative literary outlets.

And with that, comes my return to blog writing.

Today….I finally put down thoughts on how we’re never too busy to communicate.

In the world we live in now….no one is ever away from their phones or devices for long. Yet….texts go unaswered while people are seen posting things to Facebook, messages are seen as read with no reply, while photos appear on Instagram….all the while we wonder “are we being ignored?”..”are they ghosting me?”…”what did I say wrong?”…We pull away if we feel ignored or as if we are being rejected….only then to have the un-answering party reappear days later and say “Sorry, I didn’t reply…been too busy”.

Whether we are talking about business meetings, social engagements, appointment bookings, or online dating conversations….we are never too busy.

I often hear conversations unfold as follows:

“I really am mad I didn’t get the job/call back/meeting/date/appointment/interview”

“Did you call/email/text to take the next step?”

“no……..I was too busy”

It goes on and on…people blaming others for the shortcomings in their own lives….saying that the other party wasn’t interested, or wasn’t prompt enough.

The fact of the matter is this….if we choose not to reply in a timely fashion, no one else can be blamed for moving on while we’re “too busy”. We are not too busy…we are too lax..we are too self absorbed to give time back to those who contact us…yet we complain when things ‘fall through’.

We live in a time when phones are always on chargers, when texts are always able to be scheduled for future delivery, when Facebook messenger tells us who by and when messages were read….we no longer have to worry about $.10 text messages, or data blackouts, or weak phone reception….we are CONSTANTLY connected. ¬†So it is hard for us to ever forego replying. We simply choose not to reply. We choose to falsely give off the impression of “being too busy to reply” .

I just now received a text and decided to see how long it takes to unlock my phone, open the message, type, and reply….the results: 6.14 seconds.

It takes no time at all to keep in touch and keep progress moving forward.

Read, Reply, Repeat……and let’s stop this communication warfare…let’s reconnect.

 

 

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Bianca editorial hair stylist phil Hovey

Ahoy all you good rats out there.
Many that know me well, know that I don’t sleep very well.

Writing has always been a great way for me to settle down.

I am about to embark on a very exciting week. There are some really amazing things about to happen behind the chair and behind the camera.

So with that I wanted to write a little bit about something that Bianca and I are working on.

It is nov secret that I am obsessed with editorial beauty photography and styling.

The above image is a product of many years of hard work for me. It is also the start of a huge new chapter in my career.

I’ll explain.

When Bianca and I sat down together last week to shoot, we had no idea what we were about to stumble upon. Without giving away too much for my plan…I’ll say this.

In the coming weeks I’ll be launching a new special  styling package for the ladies. It’ll be titled Editorials & Events.

Based on the shoot from which this image came….. Editorials & Events will be a super versatile and affordable way for you to not only have me custom style a new look for you. ..but to do it while building up your hair health.

So it is really exciting for me to get to sleep tonight only to wake up and begin this huge week full of some huge opportunities and experiences.

The full update will be unveiled later in the week. Till then, I’ll close with this thought :

11 years ago I entered the beauty industry as a hobbiest photographer. I am now proud to have a team of dedicated creators by my side. And we are days away from rolling out a program that rivals many large scale teams in this industry.

So until then keep checking here for sneak peeks of what me and the crew will be up to!

This is mr phil signing off

Service Over All

Hello all you good rats out there,

I cut, color, and treat hair.

That is the shortest explanation of what I do for a career.

Yet, there is much much more involved when I take a guest at my chair.

I greet you and make sure you are welcomed and comfortable.

I seat you and ask how your day is going…out of genuine interest.

I ask you “what are we going to do today?”….giving you the chance to lead.

I drape you in a fashionably rugged black plastic cape…and begin the process of seeing that you’re relaxed and allowed to unplug.

You see…I was gifted with the love of service. I don’t do hair because I have to, I do it because it is one of the deepest ways I know how to help people.

My love for hair work extends long past the technical applications of shear and color to your hair.

I give you permission to be yourself and to discover yourself by way of your hair adventure with me.

The technical knowledge and skills are simply vehicles for you to find your way to a better version of yourself.

Many people come to me asking for my trusted opinions because unfortunately…..too many other stylists have let them down. Now, I cannot promise that I will never fail you….but I CAN promise that I will do everything within my power to grant you the integrity and respect you deserve in pursuit of completing your service.

Life is complicated…yet, when you sit for me…I aim to bring some solace to your complex life.

In short….a session with me is not rooted in dollars, countless guests, or record beating service times…no….it is rooted in creating a place in time for you to feel good about who you are…or who you want to be.

I offer you my skills and my hands….in return, I ask you to take a moment from your complex life and allow me to serve.

 

This is Mr Phil signing off,

 

All New Again

Hello, my name is Mr. Phil Hovey.

I am many things….but most of all, I am a creator.

One might say I am destined to create in anything I do…never content with staying idle, I seek opportunities to make something out of nothing….or to modify what is in front of me.

Many years ago, I ran a blog called “Find Your Light”..where I talked about the inspirational facets of the photography world. The blog took on a few iterations before I felt completely satisfied with its output.

Once I began my journey into the world of hair cutting as a barber, Find Your Light felt too strictly photo related….yet starting a secondary hair blog felt contrived.

Many people run super successful singled ended blogs. I however, cannot be single ended. I am multi faceted….so it is my hope that this new site will bring about a free and fluid manner of expression from me…to you.

My work as a barber-stylist takes place at Hair Forever in Milford CT. I grew up in this salon, from the time I was in middle school to my early 30s, my hair was cut by Hair Forever owner Bette Scott. She now has taken in me in as one of her team members. I couldn’t be happier there.

As a photographer, I work everywhere…the world is my studio…and from time to time I set up within 4 physical walls to bring to life my special kind of studio magic.

Those are details about myself that you all may know. I am always up to creating something with hair or photography.

Yet, what you may not know is that deep down inside….I’m pretty introverted and despite the bold ways you are accustomed to….I enjoy taking time to myself and planning almost every concept…pen to paper, thought to theory…I do so much behind the scenes work prior to launching a new plan.

For so long…I tried to keep separate my barber and photography careers. It seemed like a good idea at the time…yet, the two worlds are greatly intertwined for me. Photography lead me into hair cutting…and now hair cutting features much of my photography. So this new site is a welcomed change where I can seamlessly blend those worlds together into a perfect storm…mixing together all my creativity.

Well, here we are at the end of my first entry…and I guess I have said a lot without really saying much about myself. Keep posted, as in the days to come…I’ll add some new thoughts for you…and maybe even some new photos.
Till then……

This is Mr Phil signing off,